There are times when something comes out of your mouth that was never intended. That is when your negative inner voice starts to take over your thoughts for making that mistake. It screams inside your head, “You are such an idiot…” You often continue to play out the scenario in your head and the merciless inner voice continues to berate you long after the incident. This type of background talk can seriously damage self-confidence. How is it that some people know how to take control and turn off that negative voice, while others can’t seem to address it and let…


When you are looking to up your game and meet some new career goals, you often take courses, plan for advanced degrees, upgrade your online presence, and start searching Indeed and other job posting sites for the position you desire. However, people often neglect engaging a mentor. The payoffs of having a mentor can be a key component to your goals. According to research, employees with mentors are promoted five times more often than those without one. Mentors are experienced people who can offer advice, answer your questions, and guide you on how to handle interviews and other situations. …


Most of us do not like the word quit. Our nature is to forge on with tenacity, never considering letting go. We complete every task by sticking it out no matter what. But sometimes quitting is the right thing. Sometimes we need to persevere and sometimes we need to just let things go. The trick is realizing that quitting something we are expected to accept isn’t failure; it is a necessary part of life. Quitting does not always have to be viewed as a bad thing. It can simply be a realistic acknowledgement to escape a negative situation.

Fear of Failure

The phrase…


Healthy posture can improve our physical and mental states. Poor posture can cause pain and reflect a lack of confidence. When we have good posture, the muscles surrounding the spine are balanced and support the body equally. Sitting or standing in a slouched position puts pressure on your spine causing back pain. Recent studies analyzing insurance payments reflect that we have spent the most money on appointments and treatments for lower back and neck pain which are side effects of poor posture. Digital devices have contributed to this problem immensely as we tilt our heads forward to look at our…


What is the one thing we can do anytime and anywhere to energize and improve our health? Walking is the answer. We can take a morning fitness walk, a walk during lunchtime to stretch and an evening stroll to destress. We can walk on our own, with our partner, kids, or our pet. Walking can be high intensity or low and slow. If we have to stop for a while, we can start right up again and resume. We can even walk during COVID-19, but remember to wear a mask and social distance. …


In these current times of self-isolating due to the Covid-19 virus, many of us are now working from home. Working hunched over a coffee table is not great for your body and mind. Here are some strategies to make this temporary time working from home more ergonomic, comfortable and productive.

Work Environment


The holidays are a stressful time for most people. While the busy routine of our daily lives continues, the holidays then add a new layer of responsibilities and activities that take up our time, finances and emotional energy. Some of these new tasks and events are enjoyable, while others are simply draining. There are some strategies for maintaining your sanity during this pressured time of year.

Avoid Over Scheduling Yourself


We all know and admire those women who handle situations boldly and with confidence in all areas of their lives. We wish to emulate them but often don’t know how to go about achieving this. The good news is that confidence is a learned behavior that, with daily practice, will enable you to be more self-assured both professionally and personally. There are four key areas to work on that are within everyone’s abilities.

Knowing What You Want

Before you can speak up for something, you need to know what you want, says Susie Moore, life and career coach. For example, if you want to…


Most managers agree that it is uncomfortable to deliver negative feedback to an employee and will often try to avoid the task. However, there are secrets to giving constructive criticism that will lessen the blow and help the person succeed which is, after all, the ultimate goal.

Reflect on the Purpose of the Discussion

The benefits of providing constructive criticism include professional development, clarified expectations, a stronger working relationship and overall organizational growth. It will help an employee understand what they are doing well and what they need to work on. In fact, studies have shown that more than half…


Employees are only as good as the boss who leads them. This is one of the reasons that career coaches will often counsel clients to “pick the boss, not the job.” The person you report to has a major impact on your ability to grow in your career and to be happy while you are doing it. If that person is a good boss, they will not only motivate you, but also your whole team which will create a satisfying work place. Some bosses know how to manage, but not lead. A manager marches behind making sure his employees aren’t…

Tonia DeCosimo

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